It’s often the moments you don’t plan for that end up meaning the most. The quiet check-ins, the hand squeezes, the conversations happening just off to the side. This piece explores why those in-between moments are where the emotion really lives — and how staying open to them allows your day (and your film) to feel more honest, grounded, and real.

It’s easy to think your wedding day will be remembered through the big moments. The ceremony. The vows. The kiss. And of course, those moments matter.

But after filming hundreds of weddings, it’s the in-between moments that stay with me the longest - and the ones couples often treasure most when they watch their film back.
The bride who finishes couple photos and runs straight back to her bridesmaids, all of them jumping in a circle because their girl is finally married.
Parents pulling their son in tight after the ceremony, crying because they’ve just watched him become a husband.
A newly married bride turning to her partner and saying, “Oh fuck… we’re married now.”

So much of a wedding day happens just out of focus.
Your nanna's hugging each other. Someone sneaking margaritas back to the table. Guests photobombing without realising it. The way your new husband can’t take his eyes off you when you’re talking to someone else.
These moments don’t announce themselves, and couples rarely notice them on the day. But when they’re stitched together later, they make for an honest representation of your day. 

It’s not just about the highlights - it’s about how the day actually felt.

The biggest difference I see between wedding days isn’t the weather, the styling, or the timeline. It’s presence.
Couples who are present stay engaged with each other. They linger in hugs. They let moments breathe. They aren’t cutting things short to check what’s next on the schedule - they trust that someone will tell them when it’s time to move on.
When a day is too tightly packed, the default becomes “get the essential shots”. And in that rush, the quieter moments - the ones that carry the most meaning - don’t get the chance to unfold.
Once a moment is interrupted, it can’t be recreated.

If I could give couples one piece of permission on their wedding day, it would be this:
you don’t need to fill every minute.
Leave space. Let moments linger. Trust that not everything needs to be managed or optimised.
Because while it’s easy to remember the high points and big emotions, it’s the in-between moments - the ones rooted in genuine connection - that are the most fleeting in our memory.
And they’re the ones most worth holding onto.